Develop your own domestic violence safety plan

Review the general guidelines on the "Protect Yourself" tab.

My Plan

The following steps are my plan for increasing my safety and preparing to protect myself in case of further abuse. 

Although I can't control my abuser's violence, I do have a choice about how I respond and how I get to safety. I will decide for myself if and when I will tell others that I have been abused, or that I am still at risk. Friends, family and co-workers can help protect me, if they know what is happening, and what they can do to help.

To increase my safety, I can do some or all of the following:

1. When I have to talk to my abuser in person, I can:

2. When I talk to my abuser on the phone, I can:

3. I will make up a "code word" for my family, co-workers, or friends, so they know when to call for help for me. My code word is:

4. When I feel a fight coming on, I will try to move to a place that is lowest risk for getting hurt such as:

or (at work):


(at home) (in public)

5. I can tell my family, co-workers, boss, or a friend about my situation. I feel safe telling:

6. I can use an answering machine or ask my co-workers, friends or other family members to screen my calls and visitors. I have the right to not receive harassing phone calls. I can ask:

to help screen (home) (work) my phone calls. 

7. I can keep change for phone calls with me at all times. I can call any of the following people for assistance or support if necessary and can ask them to call the police if they see my abuser bothering me.







8. When leaving work I can: 

9. When walking, riding or driving home, if problems occur, I can: 

10. I can attend a Project Sanctuary support group for women who have been abused. Support groups are held:


11. Telephone Numbers I Need to Know: 

Police/Sheriffs Department: 

Probation Officer:

Project Sanctuary: (707) 463-HELP 0r (707) 964-HELP.


Clergy Person: